Have you ever started talking to a guy who texts you every day but, for some reason, never actually gets around to asking you out?
It feels like he’s really into you, right? So, you’re sure he must want to meet soon to take this text chemistry into real life. But weeks or even months go by, and an actual date never materializes, even though the daily texts keep coming.
Girl, if this scenario sounds familiar, you’ve probably wondered more than once – why does he text me every day if he doesn’t want to hang out in real life?
You start doubting yourself, but dating confusion like this happens to many of us. As a dating coach, I want to help you understand it.
This article will explore 13 key reasons why a guy might keep texting you frequently without ever pulling the trigger to meet up, including his girlfriend, his preferred communication style, he’s too busy, etc.
The article will also include tips on handling the situation and a helpful timeline to expect a date invitation to help you decide if he’s worth giving more time and attention to or if you deserve to move on and find someone eager to date you. Let’s go through it.
13 Reasons He Texts Me Everyday But Doesn’t Make Plans
1. He has a girlfriend
If the guy texts you every day but never wants to meet up, it could mean he’s already in a relationship. When a guy has a girlfriend but is interested in someone new, he may limit flirtation to simple text exchanges.
Going back and forth over text feels safer for a taken guy than asking you out and risking his current relationship.
This type of guy keeps it to casual texting because he never wants things to get too real. He likely knows meeting up in person could lead to cheating.
So, if your guy texts but never makes a move to date, he may text multiple girls while staying faithful in body (if not mind) to a current girlfriend.
2. Texting is his preferred communication
For some guys, texting is their primary way of talking to new people or keeping up with friends. This guy friend may text you daily because he enjoys having a text buddy, but he never intended for those text conversations to turn into real-life plans.
So, if the guy you’re talking to keeps things at the text level, it’s likely that he’s not looking for a relationship and feels more comfortable getting to know potential dates through casual text exchanges.
Don’t waste your time thinking long texting sessions equal interest if he doesn’t seem interested in ever meeting up.
3. He’s not very interested
If a guy texts you frequently but doesn’t make a move to hang out, it could simply mean that he’s not that into you.
Even if the guy seems attentive over text and you enjoy your flirty text convos, his lack of effort to meet up signals low romantic interest on his end.
No matter how fun your ongoing text chemistry may feel, this reason isn’t likely worth your time or emotional investment.
4. He’s bored
Another ordinary reality is that the guy texting you daily but never following through with plans is bored and just looking for attention.
He may be unemployed, just out of a relationship, or have lots of free time for other reasons. While texting you provides a pleasant diversion, he doesn’t have genuine interest or the intention to turn conversations into reality.
5. He’s too busy to date
Some guys don’t have time for a quick coffee date, even if they like a girl. His job, education, family, or other priorities may be highly demanding.
But at the same time, it doesn’t make sense to invest too much time and attention into a daily text buddy who doesn’t want to make his busy schedule work for you. A guy who’s really into someone finds a way to make it happen.
6. He’s not ready for a relationship
If the guy texting you every day just got out of a messy breakup situation, he might have other personal issues he’s still figuring out.
Despite enjoying the ego boost of your daily text exchanges, meeting up in person would make things too “real” for where he’s at.
While it’s never too late for him to come around, you deserve to date someone as excited about the possibility. So don’t let this wishy-washy texter string you along indefinitely.
7. He craves validation
For some men, flirty texting is an easy ego boost when feeling insecure. By texting cute girls every day, they get regular little bursts of confidence from your positive attention. But this type of guy who texts but doesn’t make date plans may subconsciously know that taking things offline won’t go well.
He satisfies his need for validation through low-risk texting while avoiding potential real-life rejection. Don’t let him tap into your emotional energy to prop himself up!
8. He just got out of a relationship
If a guy recently ended a serious relationship, he may not fully be ready to date again. Even if part of him likes you, meeting up may feel too final.
He might rather stay in flirty text mode as he processes his emotions and gets clarity. But since you never know if or when he’ll be prepared for something real, don’t let yourself get too invested in the meantime.
9. He’s shy
Some guys feel too awkward and shy to ask a girl straight up, even if they want a relationship with someone.
A shy guy might text you every single day but never get up the nerve to make actual plans. But he beats around the bush, texting constantly yet never pushing for more.
If you think a shyness issue is preventing him from asking, try saying something like, “We should grab coffee this week just to see if there’s any chemistry in person.” He probably expects you to do all the work if he still doesn’t make a plan after that. And you deserve better.
10. He’s making sure you like him
What if the guy texts you daily but never makes plans because he wants to see definite proof you’re interested before putting himself out there?
He might flirt heavily over text and be waiting for you to say something confirming you want to date. Especially for insecure guys, that direct reassurance feels essential before he’ll feel safe asking you to hang out.
But you know what? It goes both ways. If he expects you to show clear interest, you deserve the same from him. Don’t commit to a guy who constantly texts but never makes solid plans after all that communication.
11. He heard rumors about you
Unfortunately, people spread baseless gossip about others all the time. He texts but never makes plans as he hesitantly tries to determine whether what he hears through the grapevine is true.
But constantly analyzing you over text rather than just meeting up seems unfair. It would be best if you didn’t have to convince every guy of your worth through electronic messages alone.
12. He feels obligated to text back
Did a well-meaning friend push you two to exchange numbers, even though you could tell he wasn’t super into it? That might explain why this guy texts but never plans to go out.
He may reply out of politeness when you check in, but he doesn’t actually have an interest in moving things forward. Don’t waste energy on someone who feels cornered into texting you!
13. He wants to be friends first
Some traditional guys firmly believe in building a friendship before considering dating. If you have great conversations but he avoids making romantic plans, he might be trying to lay the groundwork as buddies first.
There’s nothing wrong with taking things slowly. But ensure you’re on the same page about what you ultimately want.
What To Do When He Texts Daily But Never Asks You Out
Don’t overtext him
When a guy probably texts you daily without meeting up, it’s tempting to text back eagerly, trying to get to know him better. But having lengthy text exchanges with someone who doesn’t ask you out will waste your time and emotions.
Instead of always being available, consciously text back less frequently. Like most men texting someone new, if the guy you’re texting has genuine interest, he’ll increase his effort when you pull back.
Suggest talking on the phone instead
Deeper conversations on the phone build more intimacy than you can establish through even daily text sessions. If flirty texting back and forth doesn’t lead to making plans, try suggesting a voice call to switch things up.
Say something like, “It’s hard for me to get to know someone’s important stuff over text. Do you want to chat on the phone later this week instead?” If a guy likes you enough to text all the time but never asks you out, he should eagerly say yes.
Keep phone convos short
Once you start talking on the phone, don’t let him take up too much of your time and attention if he still hasn’t asked you on a proper date.
Set a boundary by politely ending calls after 10-15 minutes. If he seems surprised not to keep chatting, you can say you have plans to run.
This establishes that you won’t be endlessly available, going back and forth for months without meeting up. It also might finally motivate him to ask to spend time together face to face!
Drop hints about meeting up
If you enjoy talking but get tired of waiting for him to ask you out, drop some hints about planning to see each other in person.
Say things like, “We should check out that new cafe you mentioned,” or “I’d love to do a fitness class together sometime if you want a workout buddy.”
Make specific suggestions showing you want to get to know him better offline if he explains why a meeting won’t work or changes the subject, except that he only wants a text buddy.
Pay attention to compliments and flirting
When trying to decode mixed signals from a guy who texts you daily but makes no plans, consider whether he compliments your appearance and flirts.
If he doesn’t seem comfortable engaging that way over text, that likely reflects a lack of romantic interest rather than shyness holding him back. Don’t convince yourself chemistry exists when his words don’t show it.
Consider moving on
As hard as it is when you feel a text connection with someone, don’t spend months waiting for a guy to make moves he never gets around to.
If you’ve given him opportunities to ask you out, but he doesn’t take the initiative, wish him well and consider moving on. Never convince yourself that a guy who won’t make time is worth it, no matter how charming he seems over text.
When To Expect A Date Invite
1-2 weeks if you met online
In the modern dating world, conversations should quickly lead to making plans to see each other in person if there’s genuine interest.
Therefore, if you start talking to a guy from a dating app or website, he should ask you on a first date within 1-2 weeks max.
Any longer than that, chatting over text, no matter how fun, likely means he’s not interested or serious about getting to know you better offline. Don’t waste time on someone who won’t try to meet up after connecting online.
1-3 months if you met at work/school
Things tend to move slower when you meet someone at school or the office. But if a guy you have classes with or see at work keeps finding excuses not to ask you out after months of flirting over text, take the hint.
He probably really enjoys the attention but doesn’t plan on dating a coworker or classmate. While you might feel chemistry through text exchanges, his failure to make a move to see you in person signals that he’s not interested.
1-2 weeks if you met randomly
When you meet randomly in the real world and exchange numbers, asking each other out shouldn’t drag on forever.
The momentum can fade fast if you’re not connected on social media or through friends. He plans to meet within a week or two if he’s genuinely excited to get to know you better.
And if he doesn’t lock down specific plans after all those “how was your day” texts, it’s time to move on. Don’t over-invest in someone who won’t step up when they have the chance.
Final Thoughts
Consistently texting someone new is exciting but won’t lead to a natural bond if it never turns into making plans to hang out offline.
While there are some harmless reasons a guy might keep conversations strictly digital, frequent texting without meeting up is a big red flag when it comes to dating.
Pay attention to the level of flirting, compliments, and romantic interest. And don’t be afraid to drop hints about getting together in person.
If he doesn’t take the bait to ask you out after 1-2 weeks, wish him well and move on. Your time and emotions are too precious to waste on someone who strings you along.
