Keeping the conversation alive when texting your new crush can be tricky. You want the chatter to keep going, not get dull or fade out.
When texting your crush, keep the conversation going by asking open-ended questions, following up on their answers, reminiscing about happy memories, and bonding over common interests.
This article shares 7 helpful ways to keep your crush convo flowing. It also covers more ideas on what else could spark an engaging chat. Let’s read on!
7 Ways To Keep A Conversation Going Over Text With Your Crush
1. Ask open-ended questions
Asking open-ended questions is one of the best ways to keep the conversation going when texting your crush. These questions require more than a simple “yes” or “no” answer, forcing the other person to elaborate. Some good examples of this type of question to ask your crush next could be:
- What are you most passionate about and why?
- What do you enjoy doing in your spare time?
- What are some of the goals you’re working towards?
- If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?
Follow up their answers with “What do you like about that?” or “What made you get into that?” Show interest in what they are discussing by asking them to expand. This keeps the convo going.
2. Bring up memories or inside jokes
Bringing up positive memories or inside jokes you share is another great way to keep the conversation lively when texting your crush. For example:
- Remember that time we both showed up wearing matching outfits? It still makes me laugh!
- I just heard that song we were dancing to the other night. It made me think of you!
Reminiscing about fun times together creates good vibes and might make your crush feel more comfortable texting you about non-surface-level topics.
If you don’t have much history, you could try bringing up a funny meme or video you think they might also like based on talking about something they previously showed interest in. This could spark more sharing between the two of you.
3. Discuss interests and hobbies
Discussing interests and hobbies is a great way to keep a conversation going when talking to your crush. Ask what leisure activity they enjoy, what they may have tried recently, or a cool new find in something they were already into.
For example:
“Have you read any good books lately?” “I just discovered this super fun TikTok dance – have you seen it?”
“What kinds of movies do you like watching?”
Follow up based on what the person says, and let them know you’re interested. Give them a chance to ask you the same questions back. An engaging two-way conversation starts when both people actively listen.
4. Send random, funny memes or gifs
Sending your crush random yet funny memes or gifs can help keep the conversation alive in a lighthearted way. But don’t overdo it – no one wants memes without real talking.
Use memes to break up more serious conversations or if you notice texts drying up. This can reignite your chat in a way that shows off your flirty, silly side. It also gives them a better sense of your personality!
Some good times to send random memes or gifs:
- In between making real plans/asking deeper questions
- If you said something awkward
- You noticed the chatting stopped for awhile
Keep it fresh and custom-tailored to stuff you think they’d enjoy. Ask their opinion on what you sent later on to keep talking.
5. Give thoughtful compliments
Giving genuine, thoughtful compliments is a nice way to make your crush feel good and keep the conversation light. But only compliment things that matter, not just looks!
Some things you could say:
“That drawing you posted is amazing; you’re so talented!”
“I always love your outfit pictures; you have the best style.” “How you described that sunset was beautiful; you have a way with words.”
Complimenting your crush shows that you’ve been paying attention to their interests and what they share. It also encourages them to return the compliments!
6. Make plans to meet up
Meeting up is a good idea if you want to move things forward. This shows you want to keep talking in person, and meeting up helps take the conversation to the next level so you can get to know each other better.
Some ways you could ask:
“I’d love to check out that new cafe you mentioned. Do you want to go on Saturday?” “My friends and I are playing mini golf this weekend. Do you want to join us?” “Would you like to study together for that big upcoming test?”
If they say no for whatever reason, don’t sweat it! Just let the conversation flow naturally to something else fun you could discuss.
7. Know when to take a break
It’s easy to overdo it when texting your new crush. Know when to take a breather so you don’t come on too strong.
Notice if:
- They haven’t texted back in a while
- They give short replies
- You’ve asked multiple questions without letting them come back to you
Take a cue and pause the convo if you notice these signs. Let them text you first next time so you don’t risk annoying them with constant texts.
What Else You Might Do To Keep The Conversation Flowing With Your Crush
Flirt playfully
Flirting playfully over text is a fun way to show your crush you like them as more than a friend. Just keep it light at first!
Here are some flirty starters you could text:
“You popped into my dreams last night!” “I just saw the cutest couple that reminded me of us.” “I can’t stop thinking about when we ___ the other day.”
Gauge how they respond to mild flirting first before upping the ante. Flirt back if they initiate it first, too. Just make sure you both seem comfortable with this flirty direction.
Share exciting news
Sharing exciting life updates keeps others interested in what you’re doing. When good things happen, text your crush to continue the conversation.
Some examples:
“I just found out I got the summer job – I’m so pumped!” “My basketball team made it to the championships!” “I got accepted into my top university choice!”
This will make your crush feel more involved in your world. Ask them to share their recent exciting news to maintain a natural back-and-forth.
Recommend shows, music, etc.
Recommending shows, songs, products, or places you love lets your crush get to know your tastes better. The key is to suggest things you think align with their interests.
Some ideas:
“Have you watched [show]? You might like it if you’re into [genre].” “I just discovered this new band, [name]. Their music made me think of you!” “I tried the best pizza today; you must let me take you to [restaurant]!”
See if they have recommendations to share. This mutual exchange about interests you both like keeps the conversation flowing.
Send selfies
Sending cute selfies can be fun to keep your crush engaged and flirt a bit. Don’t go overboard or make it seem like you’re begging for compliments.
Some tips for sending effective selfies:
- Capture yourself doing an activity you enjoy. This sparks conversation.
- Show off a cute new haircut or outfit. Ask if they like it.
- Smile naturally so you radiate confidence.
- Mix selfies up with asking questions and keeping dialogue flowing.
Use captions that make it easy for them to respond. For example:
“Took my dog on an awesome hike today!” “Loving my new dress, what do you think?” “I swear my coconut latte was almost as sweet as you ;)”
Sending the occasional selfie invites them to do the same. And seeing their cute, smiling faces on your phone improves the day!
Final Thoughts
Keeping the conversation going over text with your crush can feel intimidating. But using simple techniques like asking questions or bringing up memories makes it easy to start talking. Flirting and expressing interest also keep the conversation fun.
Relax and be yourself while applying these tips. Most importantly, focus on having an enjoyable, genuine dialogue instead of stressing about each text. You got this!
If the convo ever dies out, don’t get discouraged. Just give it some time and start a conversation when the moment feels right.
Stay positive and have fun getting to know your crush through sweet, friendly conversations. That personal connection matters so much more than any texting rules. So, start talking from an open, interested place, and see where things go!
